Why Do New Year’s Resolutions Fail?
Most people do not keep their New Year’s Resolutions. Only 5-10% of people keep their resolutions. 80% of people give up on them by February. My experience with others tends to track with those statistics.
True healing is for the bold. The reason why most people don’t discover true health in the Modern World is because it goes against what society tells you is “normal.” What is “normal” today wasn’t “normal” thousands of years ago.
It is not normal to have 5G towers lining every city, monocrop farming, fluoride in the water supply, bright artificial lighting, pesticides, and using petrochemicals in pretty much everything you buy.
But that has become normalized, and so has chronic dis-ease. 60% of Americans do, as well as at least 50% of children.
Today, becoming healthy means you are going to be in the minority, so becoming a black sheep is just something you’re going to have to get comfortable with.
So why do 90% of people fail even though they honestly want to try and get better? It is usually due to focusing your energy on one of four things:
- Focusing on the Negatives (limiting beliefs) – “I can’t do this”
- Taking Away Something (the feeling of giving up more than what you’re getting, or not finding the value in an uncertain future) – “I’m going to quit smoking”
- Trying to do Something (there is an “end date” in mind, no expectations to keep this up long-term) – “I’m going to try this diet”
- Wanting Something (instant gratification) – “I want to have this”
Succeeding today is all about overcoming these four roadblocks. To do this, the underlying theme- your “WHY” – must be BIG. It has to be so big that the goal is enough to propel you on the days where you don’t want to do anything and feel as if continuing is hopeless. Those days will happen.
You also need to do what is best for you. If anyone asks you why you are now doing X, just tell them. But don’t pontificate! That’s how you lose people quickly. In the past, when people had asked me why I do certain things that are different… I have danced around it for fear of being judged if they don’t understand.
But then I got to thinking…Why should I base my values on what others are able to understand?
The truth is we cannot help people who live their lives based on submission, complacency, and who would rather coast along suffering instead of taking action to make their lives better. Nature eliminates the weak over time. Everyone isn’t going to make it.
The people who are caged in by their beliefs, no matter how rich or “successful” they think they are, are never truly free.
Conquering Behavior Change
2024 is right around the corner, an exciting time indeed! For health, it’s a different story. While technology has come a long way, we have really dropped the ball as a collective in America. 60% of people have a chronic illness and 40% have multiple diagnosed illnesses.
Yet we spend the most on healthcare… It almost sounds too ridiculous to be true, but here we are.
Today, health must be earned. It is not given. 12% of Americans are considered metabolically healthy. This is the first time in recorded history the average life expectancy is decreasing.
For context, in 1960, 4% of children suffered from a chronic health condition.
As of 2007…
- 54% of children suffer from a chronic health condition
- 1 in 5 teens has a severe mental disorder (37% drop out of school)
- 1 in 6 children has a developmental disability
- 1 in 8 children needs special education services
- 1 in 11 children has ADHD
- 1 in 12 children has asthma
- 1 in 13 children has a food allergy (including deadly peanut allergy)
- 1 in 36 children has autism
- 1 in 285 children will be diagnosed with cancer by age 20
To add insult to injury (literally), Gary Null found that the American medical system is the leading cause of death and injury in the US…in the early 2000s.
So all-in-all, at least in America, this might be the worst return on investment ever. Why? Because money isn’t your most valuable asset. Time is. There’s no replacement for the time you can spend with your family or doing the things you love. You can’t buy back the time you’ve spent. But you can invest in a better-quality future.
It is sad to see so many elderly folks struggling with mental health challenges, dementia, and need to rely on others to get around. What’s even more dangerous is the mainstream’s attempt to normalize all of this. There are many cultures that revere the elderly and gain a lot of insight from them. Today, at least in the US, so many folks we love are shuttled to nursing homes because they have become a liability or literally forgotten how to live.
NONE OF THIS IS NORMAL. Just because something is common does not make it normal. Normalizing it only makes the problem worse because you then stop looking for real answers.
There’s an old Cherokee story about two wolves. In it, a young boy comes to his grandfather, and is angry with his circumstances. The grandfather tells his grandson about the two wolves that live inside him. One wolf is good and living in harmony with everything around him, not taking offense when no harm was meant. The other one evil and full of anger, with a quick temper. In the end, the boy, who is entranced at this point, asks, “Who wins?”
“The one I feed.”
You are the author of your own story, and you create your own future. Do not let anyone else tell you otherwise.
But that doesn’t mean it can’t and shouldn’t be fun. Healing should be fun and challenging, not a chore. It is an attempt to rebuild yourself to become new again. You get to become your own phoenix.
Rewriting Your Story
To do this, you must be a part of your own healing.
This is partially why you get sick. It is your body attempting to send a message. If you want to be healthy, you must create a healing environment with your own desires and actions, just as you would anything else that is worthwhile in life. If you want true health, you must make it a priority.
It is great to have loved ones on your side in this process, but it should not be overbearing. It cannot get to the point where it overshadows your own desire and goals for yourself.
When a loved one volunteers to prepare your food, herbal supplements, go outside, breathe nasally, or remind you to be more active, most of the time you will fail. Your trainer can’t do the pushups for you. Your partner or loved one cannot want you to get well more than you do
Your mind and your emotions are the two most powerful tools you have at your disposal.
What you imagine becomes your reality in time. Use this knowledge to your benefit. If you imagine yourself healthy and vital, your emotions can come in to drive future decision-making and your success. You can become excited about a new life, full of energy, abundance, and vitality. Read books and surround yourself with information on proper nutrition, sunlight, healing, mindset, and movement. Understand that what you create mentally and emotionally ultimately becomes what you experience. Write it down on paper. Say it out loud every day. Repeat it. Do it. And it will come.
“There are no incurable diseases, only incurable people.”
Some people will not get well because they don’t want to. This is usually a cry for love or attention from friends or family as a support mechanism for something deeper. If you want to be well, it has to come from you. You have to be the shining example for others to follow, but first you must show yourself what is possible.
What if I Don’t Achieve My Goals?
Well, you can! There are no unrealistic goals! Only unrealistic timelines.
Genes and Epigenetics: Their Role
If you’ve been following this blog so far, you know that your environment is the major determinant of your health. If you return to this blog here, you will learn that what we do every day plays a role in turning genes on and off like a switch. Genes themselves don’t do anything. They are simply blueprints tucked away in a cell’s nucleus. Genes are covered in a protein sleeve, storing them safely until an electronic signal prompts the movement or opening of the protein “drawer” (made of regulatory proteins that act as the sleeve covering DNA), revealing the requisite genes.
This switching process is called epigenetics, and research is showing that the signals we give our body that cause these switches can be the difference between being healthy and not feeling well.
The human body adapts to the input it receives. Through neuroplasticity, we can literally “rewire” our brains to think faster, become better at listening, improve focus, and think more positively. With this and the concept of epigenetics in mind, we now know we can easily shift from negative attitudes towards healthier ones.
Natural is fractal. The whole is greater than the sum of its parts. Furthermore, each part contains the whole. This is how DNA works as a blueprint. This plan addresses all parts of your life, from food, to movement, to relationships with others, to stress (mental and physical), to mindset, and others.
The key to a successful plan involves training our cells and genes (which are located in every single one of our cells) to retain their optimal resistance and effectiveness by creating an environment for sustained, long-term health.
Did you know that it takes 66 days to create a new habit?
Yes, you read that correctly. If you’re like me, I was under the impression that it only takes 21-30 days to build a new habit. This urban myth has perpetuated our lives, and chances are you have heard this line of thinking as well.
But it got me thinking- if it only takes 30 days to build a new habit, why, then, do so many people fail? Turns out, it is because 30 days is not even halfway there!
Contrary to popular belief, discipline isn’t necessarily on an endless supply. To achieve your health goals, you don’t need to be disciplined 24/7 every day for the rest of your life, but you do need some discipline long enough to build a sustainable habit, and on average that is 66 days.
So it is much less about acquiring more discipline, and more about getting in the habit of doing something. You need just enough discipline to build a habit.
You do not need to be disciplined in everything you do either. Achieving success is about doing the right thing, not about doing everything right. So if you focus your discipline in the correct manner, you can achieve your goals. It is about choosing the right habits to focus your discipline on.
Once you reach the point where something becomes a habit, it is going to take much less effort. You will be on a kind of cruise control- very similar to learning how to ride a bike! Then, you can move on to the next task.
And how long does this take? Well in 2009, researchers from the University College of London looked at how long it takes to develop a habit- when a new behavior becomes automatic. They looked at how long it would take to adopt exercise and diet goals over a period of time, and researchers monitored their progress.
They determined that the point of automaticity, when subjects were 95% through the power curve, and effort was about as low as it would get, took on average 66 days (with a range of 18 to 254 days).
So if you have heard from others in the self-help world that it only takes 21 days to build a habit, remember that research does NOT back up that claim!
It is also important to keep this in mind when setting goals. Give yourself the necessary time to build the right habits. Most importantly, don’t give up too soon!
My suggestion- start with one thing that you know you can repeat for each facet of your life, and build habits over time. Success comes in sequence, not all at once. That is precisely why many diets end up failing.
So instead, consider these questions as examples:
- What is one thing I can do to reach my nutrition goals?
- What is one thing I can do to spend more time in Nature?
- What is one thing I can do to make sure that I am getting proper amounts of quality sleep?
- What is one thing I can do to manage my stress better?
- What is one thing I can do to make sure that I am physically active?
- What is one thing I can do to improve my relationship with food?
- What is one thing I can do to improve my relationship with my partner/spouse?
- What is one thing I can do to improve my relationship with my parents?
- What is one thing I can do to improve my relationship with my closest friends?
Everyone is different, for some it may take a few weeks to develop a new habit, but others it can take a few months. Regardless, make sure you give yourself enough time for it to become routine before moving on to the next goal.
Setting Yourself Up for Long-Term Success
I’m sure you’ve heard before, “the only constant in life is change.” In this case, change can really work in your favor.
Environment Change = Habit Change
When you are looking to promote behavior change, it is important to focus on the outcome, and develop a plan that is reasonable for you to attain.
It is just as important to not beat yourself up when things go awry. Each day will have its ups and downs, so it is important to be gentle and compassionate with yourself when you deviate from it. Over time, you are going to notice these changes have melded into your everyday life seamlessly, and you will see that you have developed an entirely new way of living!
Simply choosing a lifestyle that supports long-term health and increased vitality is more than creating a list of things to improve upon. It also includes creating an enjoyable environment that excites you. The real life-hack is creating an environment that makes changing easier. It is much easier to change your environment than to change habits!
Embarking on this new challenge should make these food changes, exercise programs, and other lifestyle modifications enjoyable. It will also allow you to feel a sense of fulfillment once you are heading down the right path.
It is important to be consistent when implementing positive changes as well. With repetition comes new behaviors and positive thoughts, which leads to sustained health improvements over time. Below are some key action steps you can take to develop that positive mindset and influence change for a better, healthier you:
Inspire Gratitude
Be grateful for others in your life that make you happy. You can start by employing one simple action step: when you wake up in the morning, before you even get out of bed, think of one thing, person, or event you are grateful for that day or from the day before. Appreciate that for a moment before starting your morning routine.
Embrace Your Favorite Pastimes
Take some time to reflect on your favorite things to do. Can you perform one of these activities today or this week? When you do perform them, take the time to appreciate these activities, and try to perform at least one a day.
Do Not Get Held Up with Setbacks
Real life happens, and it is important to take this into account. Many times, it may feel easier to be more negative than positive. Dwelling on negative circumstances only reinforces negative behavior. Concentrate on even the smallest of victories and come up with a list (physical or mental) of things you did well that day, that week, and that month. Reflect on what allowed you to enjoy those victories in the first place.
Seek Out Social Support
Connection can be an extremely powerful thing. If you do not have a strong support system with your family and friends, try to look for groups with a mutual interest. Something as simple as taking a class, joining a book club, or volunteering can go a long way in helping you connect with others.
Avoid All-or-Nothing Thinking
We live in the age of immediacy. Today, the mindset seems to go something like this: “I want something. I want all of it now. How do I get it as soon as possible?” With the amount of information available at our fingertips, it is hard to appreciate the value of patience. There is also an obsession with perfection overnight. This can be incredibly harmful when it comes to making changes in how you eat, implementing a new workout routine, and fostering or nurturing relationships. The road to better health is far from immediate. Instead, it is a road that is littered with peaks and valleys. If you are committed to changing your behavior, you must accept the fact it will not happen overnight and enjoy the journey.
Positive Self-Talk
Be careful how you are talking to yourself… because you’re listening. Don’t ever underestimate the power of positive thinking. Try visualizing yourself enjoying healthy foods, working out and exercising, enjoying precious time with friends and family, and thriving as a human being! Surround yourself with others who are positive, optimistic people. They will help reinforce and support your new healthy lifestyle.
Have a Purpose
A strong sense of purpose from among elders can help reduce stress and the risk of diseases like Alzheimer’s, arthritis, and stroke. A sense of purpose can be as simple as wanting to spend time with children or grandchildren. Purpose can come from your job (if you absolutely love it) or a hobby you enjoy. Taking up a new activity, like learning a new language or instrument can install that sense of purpose as well. Taking on new activities also helps improve brain function, which is key to staving off illnesses like Alzheimer’s.
Develop a Mission Statement
Creating a mission statement for yourself will help you find clarity and purpose. Start with asking yourself, “Why do I get up in the morning?” Take the time to think about what you are passionate about, and how you can make the most of your talents and habits. This will help you identify what is truly important to you.
How to Set Intentions & Follow Through
Intention is about setting a goal, visualizing it, and accomplishing it. Whether it’s about making changes to your eating habits, trying to get into a healthier rhythm, or wanting to advance in your career, setting goals and writing them down is the best place to start.
1. Identify the Desire
Identifying your desire is the first step in the intention-setting process. It can be…
- Big or Small
- Specific or General
Don’t stop with just setting the intention. Dig deeper to understand the feeling underneath the desire. Try to connect the intention to a feeling versus a very specific desired outcome. There is often a deeper desire behind the statement itself.
- Ex: I want a work promotion, but the feeling underneath it may be to feel fully expressive in the work itself.
Get clear on what you want. Then, write down what you want and how you want to feel.
2. Get Clear on Who You Have to Be
Goals are about doing, and intentions are about being. When you focus on who you need to be to achieve the goal, the doing becomes easier.
- Write down some qualities that you’d like to personify that will support you in achieving your goal.
- EX: Writing a book.
- The intentions may be:
- “I intend to make my creativity a priority”
- “I intend to see myself as capable and strong.”
- “I intend to share my light to bring value to others.”
3. Decide Specific Action Steps
Intentions are not one-size-fits-all. Specific, practical, real action steps are needed to make those intentions become a reality. Get specific with what action steps you’ll take to fulfill your intention and follow through with them.
Once you have the overarching intention in mind of “being healthier,” get more specific with the action steps. Set up smaller, more achievable milestones, and build up over time.
Turn “being healthier” into:
- Work out [X number of hours] this week
- Spend X number of minutes outdoors today
- Get 10 minutes of sunlight 3x/day
- Make dinner three times this week
- Go to bed fifteen minutes earlier than last week
4. Shift Any Limiting Beliefs
At this point, it is important to reframe your mindset to make sure your beliefs align with your desire.
Not believing the intention is actually possible is a common intention-setting challenge. This can impede the intention from manifesting. We can reframe our mindset by finding evidence in support of it already happening in our current reality.
- Ex: if you intend to find love in a partner, but you don’t believe it’s possible, look for where love is already present in your life.
5. Reinforce Intentions Daily
Once we’ve identified the new belief or intention, we want to reinforce it with examples from our lives.
Intentions are part practical and part magic. From a scientific standpoint, the brain is a belief engine and is always looking for confirmatory evidence to prove our intention.
To do this, try reinforcing your intentions after meditation or early in the morning when there is peace and quiet, when the brain is more relaxed and receptive.
6. Surrender & Lean into Faith
Another aspect that trips people up about setting intentions is letting it run free.
Sometimes, when we are setting an intention, we use it as a vehicle to control our lives, but there is an element of faith and surrender.
Surrender isn’t waving the white flag or giving up. Surrender is an absence of resistance.
If you find yourself being overly controlling with your intentions, remember to take a step back and let go of any resistance. Being too specific with our intentions is another way we tend to control the process.
Another misunderstood element of intention setting is that they are not set in stone. Intentions are constantly moving targets that change and evolve as we grow. There is no sense in stressing out over setting the perfect intention.
Give yourself permission to change and adjust your intentions as you go, which in turn helps release control over the situation.
Don’t underestimate the power of setting intentions! They are constantly working behind the scenes to bring forth your desires.
Factors of Healing
Quantitative Factors of Healing
These are measurable factors, and can include things like
- Sleep
- Time in Nature
- Time Spent Indoors
- Sunlight Exposure
- Exercise
- Athletic Performance
- Muscle Mass
- Nutrition/Supplements
- Weight
- Lab Work
- Heart Rate
- Stool & Urine Tests
- HRV
- And many more!
Qualitative Factors of Healing
These factors are not measurable, but equally important on your healing journey. They include
- Intention
- Expectation
- Awareness
- Love
- Certainty
- Gratitude
- Presence
Intention is about setting a goal, visualizing it, and accomplishing it. Goals should be practical, reasonable, and achievable (see the SMART Method).
All forms of healing have a placebo & nocebo effect.
Placebo = intention + awareness + positive expectation
Nocebo = intention + awareness + negative expectation
Placebo is a beneficial effect produced by a placebo drug or treatment, which cannot be attributed to the properties of the placebo itself and must therefore be due to the patient’s belief in that treatment.
This means the placebo effect can actually enhance your own ability to heal! On the other hand, negative thoughts can disrupt your ability to heal. Expecting a positive outcome can make all of the difference!
Therefore, when setting a positive intention, write down a positive expectation that coincides with it.
Awareness is crucial. Your suffering or problem may end, but without awareness, you will not heal in mind, body, and spirit.
It can also be useful to tell your story to a close friend or family member who is willing to listen. Sometimes an outside ear can pick up on things that you miss.
Make Time
To heal, you have to structure your life in a way to allow that to happen.
Remember- you are absolutely worth it. You deserve to live a vibrant, happy, healthy life. In order to get there, you have to take ownership of it.
Be kind to yourself. Take care of yourself as if you were taking care of a loved one who was in need. If you had a parent or child who was sick, would you tell them they are being lazy and they’ll never get better or be successful because they just aren’t good enough?
Put yourself first and actually schedule in that time. You are going to need time to downshift, heal, relax, process, reset, and just slow down. No one else is going to put you first except you. So make yourself a priority, because you deserve it!
You Have to Feel to Heal
It is important to acknowledge your struggles and feel whatever emotions come up.
- You might be angry at yourself, or at health care providers and doctors that weren’t able to help you.
- You might be sad or feel guilty for not being able to show up for the people that you love.
So what can you do?
Close your eyes, and think about how your health has impacted your life? How does that make you feel?
Then…
Set a positive intention for yourself and write down a positive expectation you will have.
Personify a Healthier You
It’s time to put it all into practice!
Questions to Ask Yourself
- Do you believe you can heal or put your condition into remission?
- How much time do you currently give yourself?
- How much time do you need?
- How would your life change if you were to get better?
List your intentions:
Roadblocks Along the Way
List your potential roadblocks.
We all have them. The question is- which ones can you feasibly change, and which are out of your control? Consider these as examples:
- Do I have any self-limiting beliefs around healing my health concerns?
- Am I willing to pay for supplements?
- Am I willing to put in time to focus on my healing?
- Am I ready to make social sacrifices or sacrifices in my family life to heal?
- Am I ready to give up things that are keeping me sick?
- Do I have perfectionist tendencies that are keeping me from feeling better long term?
- Do I hold onto my illness as an identity?
- If so re-write your narrative about yourself
- Do I take action or am I holding myself back?
- Do I have an adequate support system?
- Am I ready to find a new support system, if needed?
- Are there people in my life that are keeping me down?
- Do I incorporate stress reducing techniques into my life?
- Do I need a health care practitioner? If so, do I have one that will listen to me and work with my specific needs?
- Am I pushing myself in a healthy way?
- Am I comfortable asking for help from people?
Be honest with yourself. Write down what roadblocks you have in your own life. There are likely other questions specific to your life and situation that aren’t mentioned here. Write those down too, and answer them honestly.
Using NLP
One of my favorite concepts for visualizing and creating a better future for yourself is NLP. Now, I am not an NLP expert, but I love the concepts and use some of them personally, as well as try to share some of them with the folks I work with. I will say, like anything else, the more you make it a daily practice, the more effective it will be.
First off, what is NLP?
Neuro: Referring to the mind or brain, particularly regarding how states of mind (and body) affect communication and behavior. NLP teaches a structural way of viewing mind and body states, developing mental maps that show how things happen and how to change course.
Linguistic: Meaning that our mind and body states are revealed in our language and non-verbal communication. Language is the tool we use to gain access to the inner workings of the mind. Neuro-linguistic programming language patterns teach us how to access unconscious information that would remain vague and unknowable otherwise.
Programming: This refers to the capacity to change our mind and body states. You’ve heard the term living on autopilot, right? To someone trained, this would mean that you are living according to your programming, which consists of habitual thoughts, feelings, reactions, beliefs, and traditions.
During conversations, most of us fixate on words. What does this person mean and what shall I say in return? It’s been long established that words are the least meaningful aspect of communication, conveying just 7% of meaning. Your tone of voice contributes 38%, and your body language communicates 55% of your message!
It is a system for understanding and using the kind of communication that really matters. Master non-verbal communication and you become a communication master!
Start with the “I Am” Exercise
Very simple. You simply state, out loud “I am…” followed by a positive and powerful adjective.
Here are some examples…
- Healthy
- Wealthy
- Enthusiastic
- Fulfilled
- Compassionate
- Fascinated
- Friendly
- Interested
- Invigorated
- Loving
- Passionate
- Trusting
- Proud
- Amazed
- Grateful
- Radiant
- Rejuvenated
- Thrilled
- Surprised
- Satisfied
- Vibrant
- Warm
- Delighted
- Serene
- Blissful
- Glad
- Empowered
- Ecstatic
- Optimistic
Here’s a song with a bunch of great examples. The key is to keep it short and repeatable.
How You Present Yourself Matters
Now in this sense, I’m not necessarily talking about how you dress, although that can be a part of it. When it comes to NLP, there are four main tenets its practices are based on:
- Intonation (your tone)
- Breathing (there’s a whole course on how to do this)
- Language
- Body Posture
Since my background is in chiropractic, I have been drilled to Kingdom Come on body posture, and it’s important. You can learn so much about people by just watching him stand and/or walk.
So when I see someone with the rounded shoulders or sway back, not only can you make an educated guess about their breathing patterns, source of pain, etc., you might also be able to get an idea about their mental status when you combine the other three tenets as well.
You don’t see many depressed folks walking around with their chests held high and standing tall. People who love life don’t tend to have a hunched back. These might seem like sweeping generalizations to the untrained eye. However, keep a mental note of your headspace next time you find yourself in front of a mirror. Are your ears over your shoulders? Or do you have a forward head carriage? Are you in a good mood? Or did you just get into a fight with your parents on the phone?
You will start to see the patterns correlate with your body’s position in space. This is something that you have control over.
Your posture plays a role in many aspects of your life, not just the physical.
Learning + Repetition = Reprogramming
That’s right. You can completely reprogram your own mind with time! Through neuroplasticity, you can make new neuronal connections, which creates a new chemical production for the same environmental stimulus.
In other words, you can change your reaction to a situation just based on how you are “wired.” How you are wired depends on which of the two wolves you feed.
- Whatever you hold in your mind tends to occur in your life. It becomes your reality.
- If you continue to believe what you have always believed, you will continue to act the way you have always acted.
- If you continue to act the same way, you will get what you have always gotten.
So if you want different results in life, all you have to do is change your mind.
Creating SMART Goals
Goals are great! But how do you form them? One effective method is known as the SMART method. You can use this method for a variety of different goals in different fields. Your health is no different.
Make sure your goals are clear and reachable, each one should be:
- Specific (simple, sensible, significant).
- Measurable (meaningful, motivating).
- Achievable (agreed, attainable).
- Relevant (reasonable, realistic and resourced, results-based).
- Timing (time-based, time limited, time/cost limited, timely, time-sensitive).
SPECIFIC
Your goal should be clear and specific, otherwise you won’t be able to focus your efforts or feel truly motivated to achieve it. When drafting your goal, try to answer the five W’s:
- What do I want to accomplish?
- Why is this goal important?
- Who is involved?
- Where is it located?
- Which resources are at my disposal or needed?
MEASURABLE
It’s important to have measurable goals, so that you can track your progress and stay motivated. The ability to assess allows you to stay focused, meet your deadlines, and feel the excitement of getting closer to achieving your goal.
A measurable goal should address questions such as:
- How much?
- How many?
- How much time will it take to accomplish?
You can measure goals two ways: quantitatively and qualitatively.
Quantitative measurements include numbers, as the name suggests. Examples of quantitative measures include:
- Weight
- BMI
- Muscle mass
- Athletic performance
- Glasses of water per day
- Servings of vegetables & fruits per day
- Blood pressure
- Time spent moving
- Hours spent sleeping
- Time in Nature
- Time Spent Indoors
- Sunlight Exposure
- Exercise
- Nutrition/Supplements
- Lab Work
- Heart Rate
- Stool & Urine Tests
- HRV
- And many more!
Qualitative measurements are more subjective, and why I suggest keeping a journal to record what you eat and how you feel.
First and foremost, keeping a diary can help highlight unhealthy habits that are keeping you from reaching your health goals. The ability to reflect and modify your actions is a crucial step towards improvement.
It can be beneficial to jot down your location, time of day, and mood when keeping a food journal. Keeping track of these things can reveal how stress, work, or certain people affect your food choices. For example, if you are at work and you are constantly reaching for M&Ms, it is possible the stressful environment can be triggering a craving for something sweet. If you are eating in the car, standing, or moving around, it is quite possible you are rushing and eating more calories than if you sat down, took your time, and were aware of your natural hunger cues. Using a journal to note certain triggers will help you get rid of unhealthy habits.
Journaling is a great way to ensure you are getting the nourishment you need for a healthy, vital body. It also gives you data to reflect on at any given time.
I will also say when it comes to measuring goals- it is much more helpful to measure the action than the outcome. Keep the goals to things that are in your control.
“Intentional movement outdoors for 1 hour” is a better goal than “lose 1 pound per week” because you have direct control over the first, while the latter has multiple factors that can affect the outcome, some of which may not be in your control.
ACHIEVABLE
To be successful, your goal also needs to be realistic and attainable. In other words, it should stretch your abilities but remain possible. When you set an achievable goal, you may be able to identify previously overlooked opportunities or resources that can bring you closer to it.
An achievable goal will usually answer questions such as:
- How can I accomplish this goal?
- How realistic is the goal, based on other constraints, such as financial factors?
RELEVANT
This step is about ensuring that your goal matters to you, and that it also aligns with other relevant goals. We all need support and assistance in achieving our goals, but it’s important to retain control over them. Make sure that your plans drive everyone forward, but that you’re still responsible for achieving your own goal.
A relevant goal can answer “yes” to these questions:
- Does this seem worthwhile?
- Is this the right time?
- Does this match our other efforts/needs?
- Am I the right person to reach this goal?
- Is it applicable for the long-term?
TIMING
Every goal needs a target date. You should have a deadline to focus on and something to work toward. This part of the SMART goal criteria helps to prevent everyday tasks from taking priority over your longer-term goals. It is also crucial to reframe questions in a way that allows them to fall in line with the other facets of the SMART method.
For example, instead of framing a goal as,
“I want to lose 10 pounds in 3 months.”
Consider:
“I want to lose 10 pounds because I want to increase my energy levels and relieve some of my nagging joint pain. What can I do in (insert timeframe) to help me reach that goal?”
Remember, it takes on average 66 days to build a new habit, so keep this in mind when you are considering questions concerning time.
A time-bound goal will usually answer these questions:
- When?
- What can I do today?
- What can I do two weeks from now?
- What can I do two months from now?
- What can I do 6 months- 1 year from now?
Remember that success comes in sequence, not all at once. Consistency and discipline beat out motivation every time. So build accordingly.
Getting Started
For the folks I work with, I use a scorecard. I’ll explain the rules below.
The Daily Scorecard
Goal: 10 points/day for 90% of the days in the month. (Ex: 27 days in a 30-day month). Need at least 80% to maintain progress. Track on a calendar!
Directions: Add +1 per category if you achieved the goal unless stated otherwise.
- 3 servings of fresh fruits or vegetables (+1 point per 3 servings)_______
- Subtract 1 (-1) for EACH SERVING of seed oils, processed foods/sugars/meats, dairy, refined grains, etc._______
- Grounding (grass, sand, concrete, water, grounding mat) at least 15-20 minutes per day________
- Drink at least 60 oz.of healthy water_________
- Moving Your Body with Intent (not walking) ________
- Sunlight 10+ minutes each in the morning, midday, & evening (does NOT include being behind glass windows or driving in your car- no filters!) ________
- Sleep/rest for 7-9 hours _________
- Stimulate the Mind (learn something new, new book chapter read, new skill, puzzles, etc.) ________
- Meditation/journaling/breathwork/ some other form of introspection__________
- Initiated a meaningful interaction with spouse, friend, family, community, etc.__________
- Taking Healthy Herbal Formulas (-2 for EACH unhealthy drug consumed: alcohol, marijuana, caffeine, nicotine, etc.) _______
Bonus Points: Add +1 for each category if it applies to you:
- Going for a Walk
- Affirmations
- Take a legitimate break
- One Random Act of Kindness
- Grounding
- Yoga/Tai Chi/ Qi Gong
- Time in Nature
Count up your score at the end of each day and track them month-to-month. If you can get to at least 80% of the days per month (24 days in a 30-day month), you are on the right track! 80% will maintain your level of health or slightly improve it. 90% is really where you start seeing progress. Falling below 80% will likely lead to regression in your health over time. The closer you get to 100%, the faster your progress will be.
Seeing the Future
There is a new healthcare model in the works. With the way things shook out with COVID, more people than ever are (rightfully) questioning whether the governmental health organizations have the people’s interest best at heart.
The painful truth is that any of these governmental organizations are captured by the companies that they are supposed to regulate.
People are sicker now than ever. In AMerica particularly, there is simply no way that we can spend the money per capita on “healthcare” and yet have the worst health outcomes of any industrialized nation. This is the worst return on investment you can possibly make.
So we need a new model. One that works for people and not for corporations. So in order to detach from the centralized paradigm, we need some core tenants to follow. The new vitalistic Health Care Model will be based on these core pillars:
- There is an innate intelligence which governs the organization of the body- this is based in quantum mechanics primarily
- Health is the Natural state of the body. “Symptoms” are mechanisms geared towards reaching health.
- The body does not “attack itself.” Healing creates negative entropy.
- All therapies must be in harmony with the functions of the body
- ALL research will be available for public scrutiny, including having raw data available for independent statisticians to scrutinize
- All medical schools will no longer accept funding or research from the pharmaceutical industry.
- All healthcare research will be independent
- The Pharmaceutical, Tech, and Supplement industries will be financially and morally responsible for their products
- All Humans will be the ability to choose any health procedures he or she find appropriate AND none will be forced upon him/her
In a truly free healthcare system, you will be able to choose the provider you want for the condition you want, and work with him/her in a true partnership. But partnerships go both ways. That also means responsibility on the individual to follow through with the recommendations.
What’s clear is that the AMerican system is truly broken. If you rely on the broken system, expect broken outcomes. We need to create a new system.
To do that, we need to support those who work outside of it and share with others the value of it.
What is that value? Time. Time out of pain to spend with your kids. The freedom to move your body and not rely on others to live the happy and free life you deserve.
That is the world I am creating. That is why I open source all of my material on the internet. Those who take it seriously or decide to work with me will get that time back in the long-run.
We create the new system when we value it.
I hope you have a wonderful New Year’s! See you in 2024!
Dr. Vincent Esposito
Want More?
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